Thursday, January 13, 2011

Black Heart

The books on our coffee table are off limits. They were all askew after I finished folding a load of laundry this morning. And Little One denied what her hands had done. She lied to me today.
It broke my heart.
It wasn't a big deal. It's just coffee table books. She didn't break anything, she didn't hurt anyone, she was only exploring that which is off limits. Touching the books isn't the problem...it's that she disobeyed a clearly defined rule in our home. To my surprise, I wasn't surprised. Our pastor always says, "never be shocked by sin." We're a broken people. We all will disappoint. We all will let each other down. We all will be jealous, prideful, disobedient, and mean. We all will lie. Even little girls that can't yet speak a whole sentence.

At our house, we occasionally spank. I didn't and I probably should have. Maybe I blew it. She was remorseful as I gently corrected and explained that the depth of my love cannot be moved by some silly books. She knew what she was doing in disobeying and even in her lying. I want Little One to learn obedience now, in the little things like opening up a coffee table book, and not later in sneaking out or skipping school or forging my signature, you know?
Ah, this parenting thing is hard.

4 comments:

Emily said...

I'm new at this momma thing but starting to understand how it hurts your heart when they disobey. We administer "the rod" at our house, too, and need to be more diligent. :( I should probably commit Prov. 13:24 to memory.

This post was an encouragement to me. Thanks!

Wanting What I Have said...

Hang in there sister. :) My Little Bit wouldn't look me in the eyes today when she defied me. Like, WOULD NOT look me in the eyes. LIke, I cupped her face gently in my hands and she STILL averted those blue eyes. Ugh. It is hard. :)

Sarah said...

Girl, we are feeling the disobedience here too. It's so hard to know when and if to spank. I hate having to, but sometimes it is necessary.
Makes me realize how sad it must make God when we sin...because it kills me on a daily basis when Ella disobeys me!

Sarah Barry said...

It is so painful when they disobey and cause that rift in the relationship. We have a lot of work ahead of us!